Yes, you have heard the advice many times I’m sure… close one door and another will open. And I”m sure you have thought that you have shut that door and stood waiting to hear the sound of another releasing its lock; allowing you to turn the handle so that you can excitedly go forth to explore. But nothing happened.
Too many times, nothing happened. And so you started to doubt these sage old pieces of wisdom so colourfully placed in quotes and memes. And with those doubts you also started to give up on your dreams, your hopes, yourself.
I’d like you take a trip back in time with me… just stop a moment and reflect back on that last door that you slammed… did you feel it? Did it not hurt? That foot of yours that you placed in the jamb….
It is hard to close doors, to have true faith that another will indeed appear. Change, so scary. Feelings of vulnerability cloak our bravado. For true closure to occur, much soul-searching needs to be done, much seeking of guidance undertaken. The desire to no longer remain the same must be stronger than the fear of change in order to break free of the subconscious desire to put our foot the the way of closure.
“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.”
– C. JoyBell C.
Sometimes we feel we are betraying someone or some cause when we change……so then we add feelings of guilt as our reason to put our foot in the door. We get set in our ways and people get used to who and what we are. Sometimes we think that someone that we are betraying is ourselves and we then compound our guilty feelings.
Change walks hand-in-hand with fear and guilt. Switch hands with excitement and faith instead.