One of the sayings that many people fall back onto when they feel disempowered is, “It is what it is…” I so detest this saying. And yes, I freely admit that there are times when it is appropriate to say it, however, where this saying goes wrong, in my opinion, is that it too often translates into “…and there is nothing I can do about it, ever.”
How sad it is to lock ourselves into such finality; to give ourselves permission to give up.
I recently received a newsletter from Louise L Hay and it was promoting the newest publication from Ester Hicks and Dr. Wayne Dyer entitled: Co-Creating at its Best. As I was reading over the Top 10 Sayings of Abraham, as quoted in this newsletter, I found that I completely resonated with the sentiment behind Saying #9: “You only have to focus upon what you desire, instead of getting bogged down in the muck and mire of what is.”
The most natural and easy way for others to exert their control over us is to make us feel guilty, less than, not worthy, or not capable… Our view of the world is created through our thoughts and perceptions and too often these thoughts and perceptions come from a place of loss, helplessness and fear. We are powerful beings yet we have been programmed into thinking we are not. Saying #10 reiterates this fact: “You are powerful creators, you see, You are not facers of reality. You are creators of reality.”
Situations will always surface where we may have no control or the ability to change them, yet, we forget that we are solely responsible as to how the situation will ultimately affect us. We can control the nature of how we proceed. We have free will. We have our guides. We have a choice.
It is times like these that I remind myself of the Serenity Prayer, authored by the American theologian, Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971):
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
To me, this prayer calls us to action, not resignation. Even in acceptance, we are not to surrender but are called to find our way…